How to Stop Time, in 3 Easy Steps.
Back to school, Thanksgiving, Halloween… How is it the middle of November!?
Maybe you got married this year. Maybe you said goodbye to your “baby” as they got on the school bus for the first time. Either way, it happened fast. If only there were an invisible photographer at the bus stop to capture that look on your face – crying, laughing, glaring with over-protectiveness: love, your way.
Ask this Magic Question
We all know it's impossible to "stop time” but there are ways to enjoy right now and make sure your memories stay with you. One way is the practice of Reflection.
Stop right now and answer this question in your mind:
What was my favourite part of today, so far?
A coffee? A kiss? A bathroom break? (Just saying!)
For me, it was writing in my journal first thing in the morning. I felt grounded, connected and safe.
How Reflection Stops Time
Reflection helps us focus our minds on little pieces of life that would otherwise go unnoticed.
The noticing leads to a memory;
The memory brings up a feeling;
The impact of the feeling helps our brain flag that moment as a "keeper" in the sorting & filing of the mind.
Reflection is that invisible photographer you wish for. I ask every single one of my couples this question on their wedding day:
What was your favourite part of today, so far? Whatever they say in the answer, they will remember for the rest of their lives.
This is where we’re at:
The holidays are coming, then Valentines Day, Family Day, March Break, Easter, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, cottage season, wedding season, birthdays, back to school… AHHH! You get the picture: it’s gonna go fast. Don’t let life pass you by; ask the question. Better yet, let me document your life as it happens, so you can let go. LET GO.
8 hours of family photojournalism.
Imagine having permanent memories of your real life, documented by an invisible person. The looks exchanged. The silent smile. The exasperated eye-rolls. The special connections with those we see every day and take for granted. And those we see once a year and long to have more of.
That is what I look for, with the photojournalistic style.
An invisible documentarian to capture the very fabric of your life. A true “day-in-the-life” means no posing at all – you literally go about your business and I capture it.
Family coming from out of town? – the perfect time for this.
Cooking & chaos & celebration? – the perfect time for this.
Mundane, morning routines with your boring family that you love more than anything? – the perfect time for this.
A slow dance in the kitchen after everyone has left. Perfect time. I’ll just see myself to the door, by the way. You guys, you know, do your thing.
This was an excerpt from The Empire Citizen, my bi-weekly newsletter, which you can sign up for here.