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Your Turn Challenge Day 2: The New Moon

The topic for Day 2 is "What is important to you?" ...What is important to me? Heck - what ISN'T important to me?! Caring too much is the cause of most of my worries already. But I'll tell you what I care about right now at this moment: the moon. Tonight is the new moon - the supermoon of 2015! When I was seven my parents divorced. They were very conscientious and probably read all of the "how-to-do-a-healthy-divorce-when-you-have-kids" books. Anyway they did their best. One day, according to my dad, I said to him that I felt better when I looked at the moon, because I knew it was the same moon he was looking at. I knew, even at 7 years of age, that the universe kept us connected. Maybe not in the magical new-agey way you might think, but we were together nonetheless.

The moon has always been special to me. I've resorted to a few whispers directed at that light in the sky. Sighs, secrets, straight up straight talk. In times of need there's been at least one night of ululation, if not more - howling at that moon for pain, pleasure, direction, liberation.

And every month, for almost the last twenty years, the moon has had more of an influence in my life than I'd like to admit. Women anywhere can tell you their cycles are synced with one another and the planet. And why not? The moon pulls the oceans and creates the tide, and humans are also made of water. That means physical and emotional experiences that are as real as fifty feet of water flooding the Bay of Fundy every day.

"Periods syncing? That's not scientifically proven," a man once told me. But I don't need statistics to tell me what I've known since I was seven. Whether it's spiritual belief or connection with nature, we are human animals, we are connected with the universe and each other, and it's that blessed mother of a moon that tells me so.

Full Moon behind clouds
Full Moon behind clouds

You see the moon at night, when darkness comes - the same darkness that plants and roots need to grow and ground. The same darkness where sleep and dreams heal the body and reorganize the soul. I've always been a bit afraid of the dark. I even avoid it in my photography - I stay safe and warm in the sunlight. But now it's a new chapter. Time to play in the moonlight and see what happens.

Seth Godin's "Your Turn Challenge"

I want to write, but I'm scared. So on top of everything else, I'm making a blog post inspired by Winnie Kao's "Your Turn Challenge" (and Seth Godin's newest book "What to Do When it's Your Turn").

Day 1: Why are you doing the Your Turn Challenge? The Wisdom of Shaking Your Ass

After a long, cold, confusing day, the last thing I feel like doing is writing some sort of thought-provoking blog post. It would be far easier to kick back with Netflix and Instagram for the next two hours, and then go to bed.

But fuck easy. (Oops – are we allowed to say the eff word?)

I’ve spent most of my life as a dabbler – a mind-changer. Couldn’t seem to ‘find my calling’. Couldn’t stay focused. Then, a couple years ago, I read The War of Art and everything changed. I realized that I was scared; scared of hard work, of discomfort, of caring for something and being wrong, of failure, embarrassment, rejection, heartbreak, scared that people would find out I wasn’t the real deal, and that ultimately I would never find love… My ovaries would dry up and I’d die alone, in an apartment full of cats.

That may sound overly dramatic, but it’s the truth (although what’s so wrong with cats, really??).

Somewhere along the way I realized that I’m never going to stop being afraid of rejection and failure, and that’s okay! It takes a few (or many) rejections and failures to have some success… or at least an adventure. And I do like adventure.

A belly-dance teacher once told me, “If you stop coming to class you’ll never learn to shimmy – you have to show up and you have to try."

So here’s to practicing new skills: showing up, putting my booty on the line, and accepting the fear factor!

Seth Godin What to do when it's Your Turn
Seth Godin What to do when it's Your Turn
Jessie & Allan Engaged!!

Somehow I have been unbelievably lucky in the department of awesome clients who are funny, smart, down-to-earth, loving, and all around great... and Jessie and Allan are no exception. This was a super easy going, urban photo session in some of my favourite neighbourhoods of downtown Toronto. I went to college with Allan, and was thrilled when he asked me to meet Jessie and become their wedding photographer. I convinced them to do engagement photos, even though they weren't super into the idea of tons of wedding-related "extras". Yet when I was promising them it would be fun, I had no idea what I was in for. Anyone who knows Allan and Jessie knows they are both hilarious.

We met at their downtown home and walked through Kensington Market to Chinatown. The summer afternoon light washed over the city, and I barely had to do anything to make these two smile - they took care of that.

Engagement Photos Alexandra Park Toronto
Engagement Photos Alexandra Park Toronto
Alexandra Park Toronto Engagement Photo
Alexandra Park Toronto Engagement Photo
Engagement Photos Kensington Market
Engagement Photos Kensington Market
Kensington Market Engagement Photos
Kensington Market Engagement Photos
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graffiti engagement photos
Engagement photos graffiti wall
Engagement photos graffiti wall
Kensington Market Couples Photography
Kensington Market Couples Photography
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Toronto Chinatown
Chinatown Toronto Wedding photographer
Chinatown Toronto Wedding photographer
Engagement Photos Chinatown
Engagement Photos Chinatown
Kensington Market Wedding photographer
Kensington Market Wedding photographer
Chinatown Engagement photography
Chinatown Engagement photography

Jessie and Allan, I am privileged to be photographing your wedding, and so happy that you've each found someone who brings so much joy and laughter to your life.

For a sneak peek of Jessie and Allan's incredible cottage wedding, in Georgina Ontario, view the 2014 slideshow here!

Shannon & Matt Exhibition Place Engagement Photos

I met Shannon through an awesome project called "Barter Babes" where she traded kick-ass financial advice for _fill-in-the-blank_ (I paid with homemade soups for her freezer). In one year Shannon shared her her enormous expertise with 300 Toronto women, and lived off of barter alone. This lady is a character to say the least, and had me laughing instead of crying while we went through receipts and paperwork that had always intimidated me in the past... So when I saw that Shannon was engaged to the love of her life, Matt, I instantly messaged her my congratulations and a not-so-sheepish "don't get married without me!!" Meeting Matt, it was no surprise that he too is hilarious, kind, laid back and a pleasure to hang out with. These two are a perfect match, and I am SO super stoked to be shooting their wedding tomorrow - see you there!!

Engagement photos at the EX
Engagement photos at the EX
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Exhibition Place Engagement Photos_02
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Exhibition Place Engagement Photos_05
Day 2 of Ben & Maya: Gamble Gardens, Palo Alto CA
 
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Day Two of my travel weekend with Maya & Ben started with a delicious, leisurely "breakfust" at the Palo Alto Creamery. (By the way, if you ever find yourself somewhere that serves almond-croissant-french-toast: order it.) We made our way back home and, after an appropriately extended period of post-brunch chilling, we were ready to do more photos. The afternoon was drenched in that perfectly hazy California sunshine. Ben and Maya got dolled up and took me to the gorgeous Elizabeth F. Gamble Garden for their Palo Alto engagement photos. Since they had taken me sight-seeing in San Francisco the day before, Day Two was all about love and romance; Ben and Maya, Maya and Ben.

They flirted and laughed, told stories, and even danced together through the paths and wildflowers. I have to admit that even as a third party it was super romantic, and I look back on that afternoon with a heart full of hope, light, and loveliness. Oh Maya and Ben what a marvellous gift!

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Wedding Planning at home
Couples photography at home
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Elizabeth F. Gamble Garden Engagement Photos
Elizabeth F. Gamble Gardens Engagement Photos
Elizabeth F. Gamble Gardens
Engagement Photos Elizabeth Gamble Gardens
Engagement Ring Toronto
California Engagement Photos
Gamble Gardens Dancing Photos
Elizabeth F. Gamble Gardens Palo Alto
Palo Alto Gardens and Trees

This weekend trip to the Bay Area truly allowed Ben and Maya to create something beautiful for their engagement photos. What's more, I was honoured and so grateful to help facilitate it. Maya and Ben were 100% open-minded and open-hearted; just being themselves, laughing and loving one another to the fullest. Thank you, you dolls. Thank you!

Click here to read about my original weekend with Ben & Maya and click here to see Day One's San Francisco engagement photos.

For a sneak peek of Maya and Ben's fairytale wedding, at the Westin Prince Hotel, view the 2014 slideshow here!